Passion through Anger?

Is anger something that always breeds negativity and aggression or can it be fuel for creativity?

"Anger can be an expression of egoic frustration, but that same anger can give you energy in your practice." - Sally Kempton

I read this quote recently, along with a similar thought elsewhere, and it prompted a discussion with Laura. Can anger ever be good or beneficial?

It was an interesting discussion. Initially we thought, no, anger can't necessarily fuel positive things. But what about certain musicians, actors and actresses, artists of all ilk? Sometimes a great rage can produce some of the greatest works of art. And what about activists? Sometimes the greatest change can occur when someone just plain gets good and angry about injustice and decides to do something about it.

Of course, I had an incidence just today when I read something online that brought up some good old fashioned injustice kind of anger. I read something I disagreed with personally and responded to it. I tried, however, to make it a point to say my opinion and feelings without condemning another. I made points and counterpoints. Hopefully, the tone expressed some of my confusion and frustration without projecting hate or hurt.

The difference for me is in how you feel overall. If the anger consumes you, if you can't see beyond it, if it hurts or condemns others, then regardless of what great work of art it produces you may be missing the greatest work of art of all - your life.

Let the anger create a desire, a passion within you. Be conscious of your emotions and let them move you to action in a positive way.

Focus area and feelings

Hi Everyone! Happy New Year! I have been contemplating since I received the first module morsel this year on what my focus can be. I have for the last several years, (more than a several for those who know me!) been focused on my career. Well, with all the focus and manifesting I do, it is well on its way to developing and it is quite pleasing to be seeing it unfold. So as for my focus, I am making it my immediate family-my husband and son. I have never done this before, and already I have noticed shifts since deciding. One being my method of communication with my husband. This does seem big in many ways, my goal is to develop even better balanced energy in our home. I also think as a parent I want to be a good example to my son.

Marya, thank you for your comments on feelings and especially on Anger. It is amazing to be okay with these feelings in particular. It is a difficult feeling to be comfortable with and to give yourself permission to experience. I know I was taught to stuff it, and disregard it as it was inappropriate to have or show. The pinnacle for me was Thich Nhat Hanhs book on Anger, this brought me into peace with this emotion. Light and Love, Denise

Witness your Anger

I recently sat down and picked up an old copy of Yoga Journal magazine. I opened up to a random page and started reading. I was not surprised that it opened to an article by Sally Kempton, called Essence of Life. The "essence" of the article was regarding freedom in emotion, an ability to fully connect with and express all levels of emotions without being attached to, and controlled by, your emotions.

We have discussed an awareness of feelings - that is a big part of what this program is about. When we become aware we can identify the feeling and if desired, choose a different path. Sometimes even just being aware can change the reaction and behaviors in a positive way. There are times when you need to feel a feeling and just live with it awhile. When I first started this program I did have a lot of anger. I think that, maybe, for years I didn't express anger enough or at all. I think I needed to be angry - really angry - for awhile, before I could move beyond it. I'm just grateful I had help so that I could recognize what was going on and move through this phase respectfully.

Sally Kempton in her article tells of a practice she has used for cultivating a state of witness for her emotions. A way of not just observing but being open to your emotions - all of them. "Instead of being simply the observer of thoughts and feelings, you consciously welcome them... Anger comes up and you think, 'I welcome you.'" Can you welcome your emotions?

Our Focus Areas for the Year

Here is a 7-min podcast of Laura, Marya and Karen discussing our Focus Areas for the year. Karen and Marya have very unique ideas for their year! You know what Karen has chosen (if not, read it here)...but do you know why? Very interesting process she went through. Listen and be inspired for your own Focus Area...

Focus on Me

This is my 3rd year going through the Awaken To Joy program. For sure it is going to be the best because I have chosen MYSELF as the focus! It took a little time to come to this conclusion. My original thought was to have everyone be my focus but that did not feel right. Then Laura and Marya suggested I focus on myself - brilliant! Thank you both. The Year of Me has officially commenced!

The Ripple Effect

In the inspirational e-newsletter this week, Laura included the following quote:

"We are responsible for all the ripples created in others by our anger, as well as the ripples they in turn pass along to the next group." - Sri Harold Klemp

I know we've all felt it. It's kind of like pay-it-forward, except with a bad check. Just recently I came across an article in TIME magazine, titled "The Happiness Effect". The article sites a 20-year long study, the results of which were recently published in the British Medical Journal, that says that happiness is contagious. We knew that!

It says that "...emotions can pass among a network of people up to three degrees of separation away, so your joy may, to a larger extent than you realize, be determined by how cheerful your friends' friends' friends are, even if some of the people in this chain are total strangers to you." And likewise, the friends' friends' friends are affected by how cheerful, or angry, you are.

Now, we know that it happens, what are we going to do about it? Join us in studying anger and what we can all do to change the ripples from negative to positive.

We Begin Again...

It is time to renew the year for the program. I am so excited to do it again. I am amazed at how, year after year, I find I can refine my work even more and with each refinement, more joy. Really. I am going to keep my focus on my relationship with my kids because I am pushed to be more conscious with them more than in any other area of my life. I am looking forward to bringing even more compassion to our relationship.

Here's to another year!