Hi Everyone: The more I look at judgement and control in my life I find out soemthing new constatnly! I found myself in a situation recently that not only was I judging the other person it immediately turned into me judging myself, and then moving into control. I recently did a internet search on controlling behaviors as a lark and come up with a fantastic article on it that really helped me connect to the fact that my controling behavoirs come from my fears. And although I have heard about this over the last couple of years and knew it applied to me, now I understand the connection. I also found a new understanding when I am presented with someone who is trying to control me. I have tried to exercise caution and step back mentally when I am confronted with someone doing this but now I understand they are moving from their fears just as I was. It brings a whole new level of compassion to the situation, I can now step back with a fuller understanding of what is happening and I can remove my own ego and become more neutral in the situation. Which is definitely more helpful for everyone. I do not have a need for drama, in fact it is the opposite, I really have a need for peaceful interaction with others and this helps me with that! As for judgement it gets propelled from any situation that is creating control issues, so if it is peaceful and neutral then there is no judgement.
Peace, Denise
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I would love to know what article you read. Also, this post is interesting to me. I had never thought about someone else who is controlling and how their fears were playing out on me. Judgement is totally fear based - it is almost like we should come up with a new word for it!! Thank you for this enlightening post.
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