Inspirational Quote

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."

Mother Teresa

An Interesting Month

When I was discussing what I wanted to think about this month with Karen and Marya (you can find the podcast here), we talked about how judging others is merely a reflection of what we are judging in ourselves. So, I have spent the last few weeks reevaluating my judgment area for the month (my husband's parenting) and investigating what there is to learn for me. Interestingly, we were right! I do just what he does that I find I want to judge! As I began to become more conscious of my own behavior, my own judgment melted away...

Our Focus On Judgment This Month

Here is a 15-minute podcast with Marya, Karen, and me discussing what we will focus on this month with our judgment focus. Enjoy!

Judgement/control

Hi Everyone: The more I look at judgement and control in my life I find out soemthing new constatnly! I found myself in a situation recently that not only was I judging the other person it immediately turned into me judging myself, and then moving into control. I recently did a internet search on controlling behaviors as a lark and come up with a fantastic article on it that really helped me connect to the fact that my controling behavoirs come from my fears. And although I have heard about this over the last couple of years and knew it applied to me, now I understand the connection. I also found a new understanding when I am presented with someone who is trying to control me. I have tried to exercise caution and step back mentally when I am confronted with someone doing this but now I understand they are moving from their fears just as I was. It brings a whole new level of compassion to the situation, I can now step back with a fuller understanding of what is happening and I can remove my own ego and become more neutral in the situation. Which is definitely more helpful for everyone. I do not have a need for drama, in fact it is the opposite, I really have a need for peaceful interaction with others and this helps me with that! As for judgement it gets propelled from any situation that is creating control issues, so if it is peaceful and neutral then there is no judgement.
Peace, Denise